xtremeroswellia: (DV: There is no excuse)
So I made a video about season 9 Clark and his abusiveness toward Tess and Chloe. It can be found here. I'm fully expecting flames from the rabid Clark fans for it, but what can I say? The truth hurts. Feel free to comment here or on the video.
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My name is Jamie

My name is Jamie I am but three,
My eyes are swollen
I cannot see,

I must be stupid
I must be bad,
What else could have made
My daddy so mad?

I wish I were better
I wish I weren't ugly,
Then maybe my mommy
Would still want to hug me.

I can't speak at all
I can't do a wrong
Or else I'm locked up
All the day long.

When I awake
I'm all alone
The house is dark
My folks aren't home

When my mommy does come
I'll try and be nice,
So maybe I'll get just
One whipping tonight.

Don't make a sound!
I just heard a car
My daddy is back
From Charlie's Bar.

I hear him curse
My name he calls
I press myself
Against the wall

I try and hide
From his evil eyes
I'm so afraid now
I'm starting to cry

He finds me weeping
He shouts ugly words,
He says its my fault
That he suffers at work.

He slaps me and hits me
And yells at me more,
I finally get free
And I run for the door.

He's already locked it
And I start to bawl,
He takes me and throws me
Against the hard wall.

I fall to the floor
With my bones nearly broken,
And my daddy continues
With more bad words spoken.

"I'm sorry!" I scream
But it's now much too late
His face has been twisted
Into unimaginable hate

The hurt and the pain
Again and again
Oh please God, have mercy!
Oh please let it end!

And he finally stops
And heads for the door,
While I lay there motionless
Sprawled on the floor

My name is Jamie
And I am but three,
Tonight my daddy
Murdered me.

* * *

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month. Chances are you know someone who's currently in a violent or abusive relationship. It could be a friend, family member, co-worker, classmate, or even you. If you know someone who's being abused, please contact your local domestic violence shelter for information on how you can help, or visit this website:

xtremeroswellia: (DV: He Married Her)
Note: I received this in email this morning.

One Abuser, Two Victims

When 9-year-old Beth* was sexually abused by her stepfather, she told the prosecuting attorney that someone else knew about it -- but that he couldn’t talk. She was referring to her beloved cat, Oreo.

Beth explained that Oreo would bravely lie outside her door at night and hiss whenever her attacker appeared. In trying to protect her, the loyal black and white cat also became another victim of violence; Beth’s stepfather would always brutally kick Oreo away from the door.

Beth’s revelation gave the prosecutor an idea. She decided to have Oreo examined by a veterinarian. The results were chilling. Sure enough, poor Oreo had sustained injuries consistent with being physically abused.

When the prosecutor submitted the veterinarian’s report to the jury as evidence showing a pattern of violence in the home, Beth’s allegations gained credibility. In a way, Oreo was able to testify, convincing the jury that the traumatized little girl had been telling the truth.

Beth’s stepfather was convicted and received a long prison sentence. Meanwhile, Beth and Oreo were finally able to experience what every child and animal deserves: a safe home.

Help Empower Victims Like Beth and Oreo

The prosecutor in Beth’s case was Allie Phillips, who now works for American Humane as vice president of our Public Policy Office. She and our staff regularly conduct trainings for attorneys, judges, veterinarians, social workers, domestic-violence counselors and other social services providers on what American Humane calls The Link® between violence to people and violence to animals, increasing awareness of the powerful role it can play in unmasking and preventing abuse.

It’s a vital message -- one that Allie and our Link team are uniquely qualified to spread on behalf of abuse victims everywhere. But she can’t do it alone.

Please help Allie and our team continue to educate others about The Link and stop the cycle of violence affecting innocent people and animals alike.

*This is a true story. However, the child’s name has been changed to protect her privacy.
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I meant to get this out sooner, but things have been slightly crazy this week. October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. As such, I've made some icons. Please take them and use them! No credit necessary!

hands are for holding | he raped her 2 | help is available

he raped her 1 | it is your business | just say no

no excuse for Dv | October | just one person

My God.

Oct. 24th, 2008 09:20 pm
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I don't even know what to say to this.
xtremeroswellia: (DV: He Married Her)
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Throughout the month, I'll be posting things about it for anyone who is interested.

It's not officially October yet, but here are five new icons I just made. Please, PLEASE take them and use them and help to spread awareness. No credit necessary!

Photobucket | Photobucket | Photobucket | Photobucket | Photobucket

And also feel free to use the ones I made a few years back, located here.
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Because I don't support the aerial hunting of wolves, but I'm pro-choice.


Okay. Let me explain this.

I WORK in the social service field. Every day I see women with kids they can't take care of, kids who are neglected and abused horribly, kids who are homeless and living on the streets. Their parents make terrible choices and who gets screwed? The children.

Do you know how many kids are in the system? Probably not. Most people don't see it. They A) don't care because they don't see it B) they see it, but don't want to be bothered, or C) they care, but don't have time to do anything about it.

So instead they bitch and moan and cry about all the unborn six week old fetuses and how they all have a right to live. I wish the world was that black and white. I really, really do.

The fact is, a lot of people only care that these kids are born and then after that, well, that's not really their problem. After all THEY didn't choose to get knocked up while poor, and be on drugs or be beaten by their husband or raped by their father or neighbor.

Then the same people who cry about the unborn babies want to cut all the funding to programs that HELP children after they're you know, BORN. Like WIC and food stamps and public aid. Because the people who are on these programs are all lazy and don't want to work right? Except, guess who really suffers?

That's right. Again. The children.

Oh well. As long as they're born in the first place, that's ALL that matters!

Now, this isn't intended for everyone. I know there are a lot of pro-life people who actually DO things to help kids that aren't theirs. But a lot of people just want to bitch and complain and have their way and take the high moral ground without DOING anything to actually HELP the situation.

But that's okay. I'll still be here doing MY life's work, making a difference and TRYING to help make the world a better place for the kids who are already here. I'll be here to put out the fires and roll back the floods and clean up the messes irresponsible people make that no one else wants to help out with as they sit and moan about how truly awful THEIR lives are.
xtremeroswellia: (DV: He Married Her)
Our state governor, Rod Blagojevich, is playing a really dangerous game with the state politics right now. And people are saying he can't make those cuts, but I'm here to say YES. Yes, he absolutely can and there is no doubt in my mind he'll do it. Why? Well, he did just that last year with the Cease Fire program.

I'm not going to pretend I understand the politics behind it all, but it seems to be to be over petty bullshit because he's power-hungry. And this isn't a good thing for anyone. If these cuts happen, our domestic violence program will lose $300,000 of its funding. One of our sister agencies Growing Strong will lose 90% of their funding, as will ALL sexual assault crisis centers in the state.

You know that that means? Growing Strong will shut down. Most of the sexual assault centers, if not ALL of them, will shut down. Because collectively for the 33 centers in Illinois, there will be a grand spanking total of $600,000 left in the budget. Which, if you do the math, equals less than $20,000 per program. That is not even enough to keep ONE person on staff.

I don't know how much it will effect our DV program if it happens. I'm picturing several staff members being cut and we're already strained and under-staffed now, frankly. I am trying my best NOT to panic, but inside my stomach is doing flips and going "Holy shit this is bad."

I forsee little sleep being had the next few days.
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This is to [livejournal.com profile] amizada for the large box of books she shipped to our DV shelter! What a great selection! The books included the Lord of the Rings triology, a couple by Dean Koontz, Tammy Hoag, Nora Roberts and Stephen King.

You are made of awesome girl!! ♥♥ Thanks so much!! :D


Apr. 9th, 2008 03:21 pm
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I'm posting this as an FYI for interested parties. It's from a woman at the Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence (ICADV)--from the Economic Empowerment Program Director.

Bankruptcy Information. )
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I've changed my default icon for the month, and I urge you to snag one of the icons from this post I made last year: http://xtremeroswellia.livejournal.com/398905.html to show your support for victims and survivors of domestic violence. It really is a world-wide epidemic and it DOES affect everyone regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation, race, religion or income level.

And this is the website for the organization which I work:

xtremeroswellia: (He married her)
[Poll #1039286]

Sober--Kelly Clarkson

And I don't know
This could break my heart or save me
Nothing's real
Until you let go completely
So here I go with all my thoughts I've been saving
So here I go with all my fears weighing on me

Three months and I'm still sober
Picked all my weeds but kept the flowers
But I know it's never really over

And I don't know
I could crash and burn but maybe
At the end of this road I might catch a glimpse of me
So I won't worry about my timing, I want to get it right
No comparing, second guessing, no not this time

Three months and I'm still breathing
Been a long road since those hands I left my tears in but I know
It's never really over, no

Wake up

Three months and I'm still standing here
Three months and I'm getting better yeah
Three months and I still am

Three months and it's still harder now
Three months I've been living here without you now
Three months yeah, three months

Three months and I'm still breathing
Three months and I still remember it
Three months and I wake up

Three months and I'm still sober
Picked all my weeds but kept the flowers
xtremeroswellia: (He married her)
The song we're using this year at our annual candlelight ceremony is "I'm Ok" by Christina Aguilera. Lyrics are behind the cut.

I'm Ok. )
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Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive control that one person excercises over another.

It is not limited to physical violence, but also includes verbal abuse, emotional abuse and economic abuse. It can be progressive social isolation, deprivation and intimidation. Remember that domestic violence is a power game; its purpose for the abuser is to control the victim in whatever form(s) it takes.

Types of abuse. )
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Please, steal some and use them in October. )

Credit is not necessary.
Comments are love but also not necessary.


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