xtremeroswellia | Entries tagged with crime: sexual assault

Yeah. Two in a row, guys, because I'm pissed and this needs to be brought to light. For those of you who haven't heard, there was a horrible sexual assault in Texas, which was covered by the New York Times. I'm unclear on how many men assaulted an ELEVEN year old girl. I've read eighteen and I've read twenty-eight. All the men were between 18 and 27 years old.

And if you read that Times article, they make it sound like it's HER fault.

Let's get something clear. An eleven year old CANNNOT consent to sexual activity. It does NOT matter how she was dressed, who she hung out with, etc. It is completely irrelevant.

The hospital worker was upset because of how this would affect the boys' future.

What about how this is going to affect that GIRL'S life? She was gang-raped and BLAMED for it.

I am SO tired of living in a blame-the-victim society. It's time for people to start taking some accountability for their actions. Let's place the blame where it belongs here--on the men who did the crime.

And also on the writer of the Times article. Click here to sign a petition to the paper to issue an apology to the victim, who was the only one who was actually HARMED in this entire mess.

( Drugged, raped, and pregnant? Too bad. Republicans are pushing to limit rape and incest cases eligible for government abortion funding. )

Because I don't support the aerial hunting of wolves, but I'm pro-choice.

*Snort*

Okay. Let me explain this.

I WORK in the social service field. Every day I see women with kids they can't take care of, kids who are neglected and abused horribly, kids who are homeless and living on the streets. Their parents make terrible choices and who gets screwed? The children.

Do you know how many kids are in the system? Probably not. Most people don't see it. They A) don't care because they don't see it B) they see it, but don't want to be bothered, or C) they care, but don't have time to do anything about it.

So instead they bitch and moan and cry about all the unborn six week old fetuses and how they all have a right to live. I wish the world was that black and white. I really, really do.

The fact is, a lot of people only care that these kids are born and then after that, well, that's not really their problem. After all THEY didn't choose to get knocked up while poor, and be on drugs or be beaten by their husband or raped by their father or neighbor.

Then the same people who cry about the unborn babies want to cut all the funding to programs that HELP children after they're you know, BORN. Like WIC and food stamps and public aid. Because the people who are on these programs are all lazy and don't want to work right? Except, guess who really suffers?

That's right. Again. The children.

Oh well. As long as they're born in the first place, that's ALL that matters!

Now, this isn't intended for everyone. I know there are a lot of pro-life people who actually DO things to help kids that aren't theirs. But a lot of people just want to bitch and complain and have their way and take the high moral ground without DOING anything to actually HELP the situation.

But that's okay. I'll still be here doing MY life's work, making a difference and TRYING to help make the world a better place for the kids who are already here. I'll be here to put out the fires and roll back the floods and clean up the messes irresponsible people make that no one else wants to help out with as they sit and moan about how truly awful THEIR lives are.

http://www.courant.com/news/local/hc-uconnassault0503.artmay03,0,2579185.story

( Reposted for the link-phobic. )

Current Mood: angry

WHAT THE FUCK?!?

Not just no. HELL NO.

If you're half as furious as I am, here's his address and phone number. Tell him how you feel.

Jeffre Cheuvront
575 S. 10th St.
Lincoln, NE 68508-2810

Phone: 402-441-7065

Current Mood: pissed off
Current Music: Sunny Came Home--Shawn Colvin

How in the HELL does a 29 year old pass as a 12 year old?? Seriously...what...I...*brain explodes*

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070124/ap_on_re_us/sex_offender_ruse

A friend of mine posted the following link on her journal: http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/ . You can type in your address and see how many sex offenders live near you. It pinpoints everyone that's registered in your area and when you click on the red pinpoints, it pulls up their name, address, and photograph. Be safe, everyone!

Edited to add a couple things:

1. This ONLY tracks *registered sex offenders.* And considering the majority are never caught, don't assume someone isn't a predator just because they're not on the map.

2. I think most of my flist knows this, but just in case someone doesn't, because I just encountered this elsewhere...there is a HUGE difference between sexual offenders and homosexuals. Not to pat myself on the back or anything, but I'm a very open-minded person who accepts people for who they are. And the majority of you people are the same way. Just for clarification.

Current Mood: annoyed

seriously...what...the...frack...??!?!?

http://articles.news.aol.com/news/article.adp?id=20060526040009990012&ncid=NWS00010000000001

After some digging, I found this, and was slightly mollified:

http://00505b4.netsolhost.com/

Current Mood: pissed off

Perfectly calm Angie to screaming, raving lunatic bitch Angie...but the issue of rape/sexual assault is one that does.

So when the news mentioned the recent rape of a young woman at Duke University tonight, and Mom said it was her own fault for accepting an open-faced glass from strangers that likely contained a date rape drug, I lost it.

I don't care that the victim was a stripper. I don't care that she accepted an open face glass from strangers and drank it. I'm not saying that accepting a drink from people you don't know is SMART, BUT, it also doesn't mean it's okay to rape her either! Rape is not okay. EVER. And it is NEVER the victim's fault. The sole responsibility here lies with the men who chose to assault her, and you will never convince me otherwise.

Current Mood: pissed off

Taken from

robynadele0406

A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.
Women should learn self-defense.
Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark.
Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts.
Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

how about:

If a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
If a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 a.m., don't rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don't rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.
If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and report him as a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, and sons of friends that it's not okay to rape someone.

Don't just tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x,y or z.
Don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
Don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

If you agree, repost it. It's that important.

I was utterly furious. I'm not talking about a little bit of anger toward a stupid politician, I'm talking full out, near-hatred rage.

Let me explain the situation as best as I understand it. South Dakota recently banned abortion, something most of us have probably heard about by now. One of the South Dakota Republican State Senators, Bill Napoli (and it's taking much restraint on my part not to add several choice adjectives to describe him), feels there should be a clause for rape/incest victims to get an abortion. However, the following are his views of what is "real" and "violent" rape:

"A real-life description to me would be a rape victim, brutally raped, savaged. The girl was a virgin. She was religious. She planned on saving her virginity until she was married. She was brutalized and raped, sodomized as bad as you can possibly make it, and is impregnated. I mean, that girl, could be so messed up, physically and psychologically, that carrying that child could very well threaten her life."

Let's take that one step at a time, shall we?

According to this man, whom the people of South Dakota elected to office...only virgins can really be rape victims.
According to this man...only RELIGIOUS virgins can really be rape victims.
According to this man...only religious virgins who are sodomized AND vaginally violated can really be rape victims.

So ladies, if you're not a religious virgin saving yourself for marriage and you're raped, well, it wasn't REAL rape.

Regardless of your views on abortion, there isn't one damn person in this country who shouldn't be OUTRAGED that an elected official is so utterly stupid and completely insensitive to survivors of sexual assault. Are these the kind of people you really want running our country? We live in a society where every two and a half minutes, somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted and one in six American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape, and 10% of sexual assault victims are men.

We no longer live in the Dark Ages, folks. And if we don't confront jerks like Bill Napoli when their views on something as insidious as rape are hideously wrong, well, then we're a part of the problem too.

Bill Napoli's Home Office address and email:

Senator William M. Napoli
Home Office
6170 South Highway 79
Rapid City, SD 57702
Phone: (605) 341-2370
Email: sen.napoli@state.sd.us

Related Articles:

http://www.smartbitchestrashybooks.com/index.php/weblog/bill_napoli_is_spelled_a_s_s_h_a_t/
http://www.wonkette.com/politics/bill-napoli/bill-napoli-is-all-twisted-up-and-dead-inside-160381.php
http://edition.cnn.com/2006/POLITICS/03/07/ivins.abortion/
http://www.flickr.com/photos/voyageur/116820129/
http://ziamunshi.com/2006/03/09/who-is-bill-napoli/

Related Links:

http://www.rainn.org
http://www.nsvrc.org

I'm leaving this as a public post, so you may link to it if you are as angry about this as I am.

~The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it. --Albert Einstein

~All that is necessary for evil to succeed is that good men do nothing. --Edmund Burke

Current Mood: pissed off
Current Music: We Are--Ana

Domestic Violence Help Links

National Domestic Violence Hotline (Phone: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233))

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

Feminist Majority Foundation: Domestic Violence Hotlines and Resources

Crisis Support Network

Illinois Help for Domestic Violence Survivors

Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence (Phone: 1-217-789-2830)

DOVE, INC. (Phone: 1-217-423-2238)

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Sexual Abuse Help Links

Pandora's Box: The Secrecy of Child Sexual Abuse

Stop It Now: Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

Protect Kids

Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Forums for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse and Sexual Assault--Recovery Canada

Stop Sexual Abuse, Inc.

Child Sexual Abuse: From Darkness to Light

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Sexual Assault Help Links

RAINN (The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) (Phone: 1-800-656-Hope)

Men Against Sexual Violence

Rape Recovery, Help and Information Page

Illinois Help For Sexual Abuse/Sexual Assault Survivors:

Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Assault

Growing Strong Sexual Assault Center (Phone: 1-217-428-0770)

Illinois State Police Sex Offender Information

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Other Important Links:

Amber Alert

Note: If you have any other sites that you have found helpful, please feel free to leave me a link and I will check it out and add it to my list.

Speak: Recommended Reading

The following are a list of books/other materials that I recommend for survivors or significant others (meaning boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, life partners, parents, relatives or friends) of survivors to read. I will be adding more books and materials to the list periodically. If time allows, I may eventually add reviews of each, but for right now we've got the basics.

*Reading certain parts of these books may trigger flashbacks or very strong emotions. If
you choose to read them, please take care of yourself and stop reading if you begin feeling
overwhelmed.

1. Beginning to Heal: First Steps for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

2. The Courage to Heal: A Guide For Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

3. The Courage to Heal Workbook by Laura Davis

4. I Never Told Anyone: Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Louise Thornton

5. After Silence: Rape and My Journey Back by Nancy Venable Raine

6. Against Our Will: Men, Women and Rape by Susan Brownmiller

7. Safe At Last: A Handbook for Recovery from Abuse: Monster Therapy by David J.Schopick, M.D.

What is Speak?

I've wanted to create this section of 'Only Time' since I opened the site nearly two years ago. But I wasn't ready. Wasn't ready to be honest about my life.

But now I am. Or at least, I think I am.

( Speak. )