I know a lot about it from personal experience so I guess all I'm curious about is current stats, though everything you listed is useful for everyone to know. And good online resources for those trying to evaluate whether they're experiencing abuse and what to do would be a good idea. You never know who's been abused and just afraid to talk about it, though I hope someday we'll overcome the shame aspect of it.
I also think it's good to discuss how people can spot potential abusers in the early stages of the relationship so they don't get hooked before they know what they're really getting into. It's hard to leave someone after you've fallen in love with them, no matter what their behavior is.
One obvious sign--if they are overly insecure and possessive, having you account for every minute of your time and acting like they don't trust you not to cheat--there is a good chance they are an abuser. In any event that wouldn't be a healthy relationship. It's not flattering or loving, it's not about how much they love you, it's about their insecurity. You'll never fix it with any amount of love. They have to deal with it themselves.
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Date: 2006-09-26 12:13 am (UTC)I also think it's good to discuss how people can spot potential abusers in the early stages of the relationship so they don't get hooked before they know what they're really getting into. It's hard to leave someone after you've fallen in love with them, no matter what their behavior is.
One obvious sign--if they are overly insecure and possessive, having you account for every minute of your time and acting like they don't trust you not to cheat--there is a good chance they are an abuser. In any event that wouldn't be a healthy relationship. It's not flattering or loving, it's not about how much they love you, it's about their insecurity. You'll never fix it with any amount of love. They have to deal with it themselves.