Oh, I know! I do. I didn't really date people before the Hubby... didn't go on a single second date. Didn't enjoy it at all, and finally gave up on it all together because it just felt uncomfortable, and why would I do something just because other people expected it of me?

I guess I get more sad at people getting so determined to not give in to peer pressure that they give up on the possibility of things changing some day. It's nothing so trite as "meeting the right guy" though I guess it can sound like that sometimes. Mike is the right guy for me now... but he wasn't when I first met him, because it wasn't the right time. I wasn't in the right place. There's so much more to it than just compatability.

Marriage isn't the enemy of singleness, though. The enemy is people who think marriage is some sort of goal or status symbol, instead of a formal way of expressing the feeling, "I am happier with this person in my life than I am without them."

When I was single, I was tired of people asking me why I didn't want to date. Now that I'm married, I'm tired of people assuming I gave up something when I stopped being single. But then again, I think life is like that with all big decisions... people will always think you should choose what they chose.

Silly people.

-Bree